Monthly Archives: March 2015

Post pregnancy abdominal separation/diastasis recti.

I have been meaning to post this for a while and have recently been overwhelmed by my life, that i completely forgot. so here goes..

Nobody’s perfect and sometimes as much as we strive for it, that idea of perfection. We have to remind ourselves of why we want to achieve things and for what reason..One persons ideas of perfection will never be the same as the next.

For me, i wanted to shed my pregnancy weight gain ( just over 4 stone in weight) and sculpt a more curvaceous figure as i have quite a naturally narrow, athletic body type. However..as well as i believe i am doing, one thing i  have always struggled with, after having my firstborn and then my second, is the appearance of my tummy.

Once upon a time i had washboard abs, tight skin and three perfect tummy piercings..

After carrying one large 8.15lb baby and one extra large 10.6 baby, my piercings have stretched, tummy button sagged and my muscles have suffered permanent separation..This is an ongoing thing for me as I’m constantly on the lookout for tummy tightening creams and remedies for scarring ..thus far I’ve seen results with a few products, mentioned on another blog post.. but there is little hope for the fact that remains as i can still manage to fit one hands finger width and length between my ab muscles.

I have received a few private messages from lovely mummies, asking what they think is possible for this issue and what i personally think and feel is the best way to manage it.

Well, firstly, my sister, well, one of them (i have 6)..one of my older sisters, who also has three children, has this condition, and we have completely the opposite issues. Whilst my tummy muscles sit rather far apart increasing the amount of sagging skin between them, my sister’s stomach has prolapsed through the gap created due to the abdominal separation.

As also mentioned in a previous post, i have always been a fan of skin-tight underwear and supportive garments. But my number one tip for any mummies suffering would be to treat yourselves to some smooth, tight underwear. I will add in for you an image of my favourite high waisted briefs. They come in black and nude. They’re from Sainsbury’s ‘TU’ underwear collection and cost around £6 I’m sure.    hese are honestly, life savers. As soon as my tummy muscles went down after having my last cesarian birth, i bought quite a few of these, they wash well and leave a minimal panty line marking.

Furthermore, if your muscles are prolapsed and you are decided upon having no further pregnancies, there are surgeries available to have the actual muscles sewn back together. I do not know much more on that subject matter, so i would suggest that you do your research, always checking the board of registered surgeons before paying any money, ask lots of questions and ask to see previous work done.

Waist training has given both me and my sister incredible results, as we both started at a similar time, we have both agreed that the compression offered through the support of the waist trainer helps to encourage the muscles to meet closer. I started after my second pregnancy weight gain, with a 42 inch waist line. ~~Details of my birth experiences will be in future posts, but without going into too much detail and spinning off onto another tangent, i had a few complications after my second section, involving the ballooning of my organs due to a bowel blockage which increased the after size of my tummy dramatically.~~ Since coming home over a week after giving birth, that meant i measured much more than i might have done so if i had not had those complications perhaps, nonetheless.. 42 inches it was..and on this exact day, today i measure the exact reverse, at 24 inches. 
I took on the opportunity to model for waist shaper Uk three months after my second delivery, with a desire to represent mother’s that want to get fit. I have been honest with the company managers from day one that if i didn’t believe the product worked, i wouldn’t continue to represent it, so when i give my advice and suggestions on the topic, know that it is because i believe in the product, i do NOT get paid to give positive feedback. Anybody who knows me will also tell you, I’m too true a character to tell strangers or anyone for that matter, any lie as it goes against all i stand for.

So if your suffering with separated abdominal muscles, i would suggest that you firstly go to the doctors and discuss it. Perhaps your not sure if you have it? Perhaps this blog posts made you have a think and help you come to realise you do in fact now know why after your pregnancy you can’t shed that lumpy mid section? If you want to get into your own waist training journey, then i would suggest that you start with the ‘sports’ shaper, as this shaper is designed for the gym, meaning it offers more movement and less restrictions than the ‘classic’. Where to measure and how to get started is also another previous blog post if you want to take a peek back at it to ensure your starting out right.

At the end of all these little struggles we put ourselves through as mummies, to these outstanding little beings, we should remember that we are our own version of perfect, flaws included. As whatever faith or belief system you have deemed your own, i am sure will support the fact that what defines a ‘real woman’ is exactly whatever makes her happy. So if waist training to lose a few inches makes you happier, then do it!. If having the surgery to fix the prolapse within your tummy gives you the confidence to wear a bikini, then do it! And if you choose not to approach the fact that you either have a lot of sagging skin such as myself, or a bagging tummy muscle, then don’t do it! You must do for yourself whatever serves your soul and not for the purpose of pleasing others.

Much love and light, J. 

As most of you know by now I am a hair and makeup artist. 

I started my own business named ‘House of Beauty’, you can give it a follow on insta: houseofbeautyinfo or FB: Houseofbeauty..
I recently posted a photo of my before and after face merged into one face as half done and half not.. 

 

I was quite surprised at how many people messaged saying how great they thought the image was and how it depicted the difference between thought and feeling.. As in, what I feel I look like as opposed to what I look like.. On the other hand i received a few rude comments about my ‘before’ which where Swiftly deleted.. I allow no room within any of my pages or my life in fact for that type of negative judgement.
It has taken me a long time to become comfortable within my own skin, to accept my flaws as individual quirks and learn not to absorb negative judgements from others..
This image brought up a few topics so I thought I’d mention a few on my blog as you guys may like to share a few thoughts of your own about it?
I don’t look at the image and think ‘gosh I look so much better done up’ the first thing that I actually thought was .. ‘Which one do my children see me as?’ 😂 

It’s crazy what makeup can do, by putting on makeup you can literally transform your face and feelings at the same time.

I don’t upload a load of makeup done selfies for the approval of others. I upload them because they represent my emotions of that time..And my business.. To perfect a craft requires practice, therefore I do my makeup most days.. And my hair.
My hopes for my business is that I can both teach and offer woman of all kinds the ability to transform themselves, express themselves and love themselves from all angles.
Makeup for me is not about covering my ‘flaws’ .. It started out that way, as a young, sensitive, troubled teen.. Believe it or not some days I don’t wear makeup at all and it’s funny because those days Im guaranteed to get asked Atleast once if I’m unwell or not 😂 .. No.. Just bare faced..
But it’s important i show both sides.. As Im not more comfortable in one than the other.. Only better received..
More to come soon so keep reading and commenting.. Much love and light ✨ 

 

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March 13, 2015

Hi guys! I’m back and making a long over due entry! Certain situations have recently held my focus above others so I haven’t had the time to write but as I’ve found a few moments Im here to put my few pennies worth of thought toward the best tummy firming products! 

I posted a photo on my IG weeks ago which I will add to this post.. It featured my two current favourite gels for skin firming and tightening. Anyone who knows me knows that I’m a product whore, if your promising Im testing lol, so I’ve tried a few but these are my favourite two to date and a little about them; 
First one
:- WaistshaperUK’s ‘slimming cold gel’! I must state that before I share my opinion that I am NOT paid to help sell their products, i model their waistshapers and my opinion is based off of experience. That being said.. I have been using the cold slimming gel for weeks and weeks now.. I shared a video on INSTA of my using the gel and then putting on my sports shaper for the day.. This gel smells like menthol as it is.. Lol .. For those who don’t know what that’s like, it’s like Vicks vapour rub, or minty shall I say.. I love this factor.. I think it feels fresh, it’s got a lovely cooling feeling when you apply it, even though stored at room temperature, the ingredients allow it to continue to cool for a further 5-10 minutes after applying. When you apply it you will find that you don’t need more then two finger tips worth. The better you kneed and rub into your skin the further the ingredients can sink into the lower skin layers and work more effectively. So rub rub rub.. Do a little dance and rub some more lol.. 
But whatever you do, don’t touch your eyes or any other sensitive areas after applying.. Wash your hands throughly. The gel is designed to target belly fat and loose skin but I do suppose that you could also use it on other body areas which may also have similar issues such as thighs? But I’m not advising. Simply suggesting. 
I have found that since using this gel, my tummy skin and the sagging has significantly reduced.. It’s one thing to lose weight after two large pregnancies but skins a whole other issue. I’m open about the fact that I dislike my tummy button. As it’s an ‘outie’ pregnancy didn’t make that factor any more attractive lol.. Ontop of that when I was a teenager I had this bright idea of piercing my belly three times.. Once at the top and twice diagonally at the bottom.. When one grew out i re pierced it making it four.. Which also left a skin tag.. Because of this Im always looking for the next promising product for tightening and firming. I continue to use slimming cold gel during workouts under my sports shaper and you can feel it’s cooling agent whilst your working out.. But onto my next favourite item.. 
:- Nip&Fab’s ‘tummy fix’ 
I love the smell of this stuff it’s lovely, as its plant based Im assuming this is where the scent comes from! I have been using this for little over a month and have just finished my first bottle.. I introduced this product after showers.. Applying to my tummy and buttocks because I figured ‘why not’ lol.. This gel immediately tightens the skin.. You can feel it drying..it leaves no dry residue behind..I apply this to bare skin, no moisturiser, for maximum effects.. Same with cold slimming gel, don’t moisturise beforehand but obviously moisturise the rest of your body. 
I will continue to use this gel as I believe that it has worked well in conjunction to slimming gel.. Using one for workout activity and one every morning.. 👌✨ 
I’ll keep you posted and let you know If I come across anymore tips for non surgical, skin tightening and firming!
Both gels are reasonably priced at 
£19.29 – Boots (UK)